OK I guess you have never watched a Worldstar video. Is it just the fact people point similarities out what bothers you or do you deny people of like groups sometimes have the same behaviors, looks and mannerisms? Pointing them out doesn't make people racist. Am I racist to say L.A. girls have a similar style and look? That makes me simpleminded somehow? Is it racist to think it's not a good idea to be in the southside of Chicago at 2am or is that situational awareness? How does shaming people for making observations win them over to your side? For the record if you look back in this thread I said black girls are no different than other girls sexually. Don't touch their hair though.
General Anyone have any experience dating Black Women?
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Don't touch it.
Funny story. I was dating a chick that paid $900 for extensions to attend a wedding. I called it her weave. We would be fucking and as time went on they would start to come unglued. Good times.
The problem isn't grouping people that are similar, whether culturally or otherwise. The problem is assuming similarity based on race. To say L.A. girls have a similar style and look, for example, is a specific claim about customs in a particular area (though we'd have to specify things like socio-economic class, geography, networks, and maybe cultural dispositions to get an accurate idea of who you're talking about). To say black women are the same doesn't give much attention to any of these details and instead just says skin color is the primary predictor of certain behaviors. This is the same premise that literally all racism is built on, especially scientific racism in its various iterations over the decades.
Below you post, "you're going to get Nigel upset," which tells me that you think that matters of race and racism are emotional responses at the core and that it's about intention and meaning. Similarly you mention "shaming" for "making observations." What I'm explaining to you is that racism is very basic. It's not about how anyone feels. It has a simple definition, which is using skin color or ethnic origin to explain anything. "Simple observations" and "common sense" are laden with whatever frame history has provided us. There is such a thing as culture, and arguably even some cultural similarities that people with the same skin color or ethnicity share due to specific historical circumstances. It's doubtful that the way they love or have sex with people could be one of them. To put it bluntly, there is no special black cocksucking class people receive from their parents. There is also no disposition to be entitled or crazy, as some others have posted, simply because of one's place of birth or racial background. Those are equal opportunity characteristics. In my view, you shouldn't be so sensitive to criticism when you're posting in a thread created by one of the site's arch-trolls specifically to incite problematic posts.
To be fair he wasn’t around in vutus day. Also funny to me how N @Never_Rolled gets sensitive about Jewish stuff but not so sensitive when it comes to other stereotypes.
I’m not sensitive about Jewish stuff.Plenty of stereotypes that have validity and are funny to me. It’s that there are two posters here (not in this thread) that everything is a jewish conspiracy. I’m an atheist by choice Jewish by birth. It would be like if I made derogatory about Tigers weekly but denied I had an issue with Tigers. That’s my issue with him.
I've dated black women. The biggest challenge is being an "outsider" at events as the lone white dude with all the expectations there with.
Then again I'm in the south and I assure you black family gatherings/church/wedding/club are culturally different than their white counterparts. No one ever made me feel out of place and everyone is cool. Might not be the same experience in a larger urban center or not the southern USA. But interactions are different and it's hard to socially work a room with the nuanced differences.
Inside track for my white nerds... Take spades seriously and your wallflower routine while everyone is dancing will be forgiven.
Then again I'm in the south and I assure you black family gatherings/church/wedding/club are culturally different than their white counterparts. No one ever made me feel out of place and everyone is cool. Might not be the same experience in a larger urban center or not the southern USA. But interactions are different and it's hard to socially work a room with the nuanced differences.
Inside track for my white nerds... Take spades seriously and your wallflower routine while everyone is dancing will be forgiven.
Do some urban black girls have similar traits and looks that are easily recognized?
Urban in Chicago? New York? Philadelphia? Dallas? Los Angeles? Portland? What kind of traits? What kind of looks? Easily to/by whom?
@Nigel I'm down with what you're saying as a whole...black women aren't a monolith and ascribing behavior on race ahead of time seems foolhardy at minimum. I'm not even trying to go there...But how does one objectively describe the separate and distinct cultural nuances that have shown up in southern black populations through...I assume...parallel isolation of culture over time. Is that not the reality? Is isolation socially not as influential as isolation geographically on a culture developing uniquely?
Same with any other group living next door, but isolated from, to the homogenous default culture of [insert location] .
Most of my best friends in high school and college were black dudes I played basketball with, so I’ve been to a ton of BBQ’s. Always had a blast. Horeshoes, spades, and Colt 45. But you’re right, it can be a bit tough to “fit in” at first. Always found the older folks to be apprehensive until they get to know you.
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I think his point is that you're already having to add qualifiers about urban to join them together.
Whats it like dating a white dude?
Probably a hard answer depending on whether it's a dude with a sugar mama buying travel pillows versus a redneck in kentucky versus a dork hipster in Seattle.
It's not just geography obviously but rather the multifactorial environmental influences that lead to those behaviors and social flows. And you don't see them exhibited by black women there are socioeconomically removed from other black women anymore than you and bubba in Alabama are kindred brothers.
I'm tall and have been since 14.
Show up as lone white friend.
*Oh shit he's tall. We pick him!*
Cant ball for shit.
Increase outsider persona.
Go back to internet.
Feels bad man.
im pretty sure i have never even met a black woman before. every black dude i have ever worked with had a white wife . there are far more other ethnic minorities here .if someone is not white 9x out of 10 they are from india or china here. in our valley mostly india . in the lower mainland mostly chinese. most of canada black population is back east .
You parse it out just as you did, with specificity. For example, the south has evolved particular regional customs of femininity that have intersected with historical conditions of clustering black people into particular neighborhoods either through discrimination or self selection. Now you have a population to look at and you can analyze how it varies by socioeconomic status and try to see if there are any behaviors or psychological dispositions especially prevalent that might be explained by either the process of clustering or the overlap with Texan female customs. But when we just say "Black women are X" we are painting with a very broad brush. It implies that even if a wealthy black family moved from Mississippi ten years ago, they will ostensibly be identical, no matter what. And maybe they do adapt to the culture of people who look like them and share their class position because it seems closer to what they recognize or prefer. But that's a choice that we can't reliably infer based on how we racialize them.
But how does one objectively describe the separate and distinct cultural nuances that have showed up in southern black populations through...I assume...parallel isolation of culture over time. Is that not the reality? Is isolation socially not as influential as isolation geographically on a culture developing uniquely different?
Same with any other group living next door to the homogenous default culture of [insert location] .
The issue with race is that it's just not very useful or specific. If I said, "I met a girl from Sunnyside in Houston and she was crazy," then the conversation can go a number of ways. Am I signaling that she's crazy because she's from a violent neighborhood? A poor community? Am I low key saying she's black? Could she just be mentally ill? If so, is it because she's poor, traumatized from exposure to violence, traumatized due to something unrelated like being molested by her uncle? Because she has a neurochemical imbalance or brain injury? Or maybe she just grew up in a house full of people who treated her poorly. Maybe she's not crazy at all and I am. Who knows? Of all these possible explanations, race is probably the least useful characteristic to talk about.
all of this ^^^ happened
opposite here...6 foot white boy(My buddy was 6 foot also but a College high jumper and could do crazy dunks), I used to have hops and could dunk(very basic dunks, but dem days are long gone)...We used to love to ball every day all day
We did lil exhibitions of dunks in-between games and the Fellas loved it.
none of this ever happened?