General Euthanasia

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Jan 21, 2015
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My Uncle has one scheduled in 2 days. No joke.

I've been tripping on that pretty hard for a while now. To know exactly how much time you have left here, no turning back. How does one face that? Amazing to ponder imo
 

Disciplined Galt

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Jan 15, 2015
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My Uncle has one scheduled in 2 days. No joke.

I've been tripping on that pretty hard for a while now. To know exactly how much time you have left here, no turning back. How does one face that? Amazing to ponder imo
Half of arm.
Fuck it lets see aleg
 

silentsinger

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Jun 23, 2015
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The thing that rang true to me about this, I think it was Ricky Gervais said that we're able to do it for our beloved pets, why can't we choose how and when we go, without a shotgun or having to go through the pain of an overdose?
 

tang

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Oct 21, 2015
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my friend's dad just passed away from Cancer. I talked to him on the day of and the first thing he said was, "fuck... wish he'd have died like 5 years ago and he wouldn't have to gone through all that pain"

if I'm in a situation where I'm in so much pain or my wife or my children has to clean up my shit and piss, I'd go for it.
 

silentsinger

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Jun 23, 2015
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my friend's dad just passed away from Cancer. I talked to him on the day of and the first thing he said was, "fuck... wish he'd have died like 5 years ago and he wouldn't have to gone through all that pain"

if I'm in a situation where I'm in so much pain or my wife or my children has to clean up my shit and piss, I'd go for it.
My mother went 6 weeks ago. My step dad had to deal with all the latter stuff you mentioned while she was in and out of hospitals, hospices and nursing homes. I was back in the UK for a lot of it but had she had the choice before the cancer took over her brain, she wouldn't have wanted that. She would have wanted to have gone out gracefully without any of that.
 
Jan 21, 2015
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Today I had a mild revelation about this...

a few months ago my mother died from ALS. She chose not to take her life, nor to extend it beyond natural ability (feeding tubes, respirators etc). She used and respected her body until it did not work, she 'let God decide' when it was time to go. Though the suffering was prolonged (for all of us too), I somehow never feared it, it seemed natural until the end/I understood her reasoning. I was OK with it and dying was still a great mystery. I was peaceful after the experience.

My uncle however has just recently chosen to avoid those months/years of suffering and has chosen to choose his own time and place. Now he's chosen and the clock is ticking and to be honest it has quite scared the shit outta me. First time I ever really got spooked thinking about death to be honest and I've been wondering why. Why it never scared me while contemplating my mom's passing?

I used to say I would also go out faster and avoid a long grim hospital death, but at least from my shoes that subtle difference of surrender vs taking control really changed the lens through which I see my own mortality. Super interesting.
 

silentsinger

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Jun 23, 2015
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I'm just going to blurt this out. Tell everyone that you love, that you love them. Frequently.

While my mother was going into the last nursing home pretty much oblivious to what was happening, I developed breast cancer, so I couldn't tell her about it or be there for her final couple of months... because I had to be here for various biopsies/tests/etc.

She died 5 days before I had my surgery not even knowing I had it. I'd been through 2 scares before and didn't even tell her because I didn't want to worry her till I had he all clear so it fucked me up, selfishly, that when I had bad news I couldn't tell her. She made me promise her that I'd say something if it happened again.
 

tang

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Oct 21, 2015
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My mother went 6 weeks ago. My step dad had to deal with all the latter stuff you mentioned while she was in and out of hospitals, hospices and nursing homes. I was back in the UK for a lot of it but had she had the choice before the cancer took over her brain, she wouldn't have wanted that. She would have wanted to have gone out gracefully without any of that.
so sorry to hear that
 

silentsinger

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Jun 23, 2015
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44 years to play with and I had cancer surgery 5 days after she died of cancer...the timing was unfuckingreal.
 
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Today I had a mild revelation about this...

a few months ago my mother died from ALS. She chose not to take her life, nor to extend it beyond natural ability (feeding tubes, respirators etc). She used and respected her body until it did not work, she 'let God decide' when it was time to go. Though the suffering was prolonged (for all of us too), I somehow never feared it, it seemed natural until the end/I understood her reasoning. I was OK with it and dying was still a great mystery. I was peaceful after the experience.

My uncle however has just recently chosen to avoid those months/years of suffering and has chosen to choose his own time and place. Now he's chosen and the clock is ticking and to be honest it has quite scared the shit outta me. First time I ever really got spooked thinking about death to be honest and I've been wondering why. Why it never scared me while contemplating my mom's passing?

I used to say I would also go out faster and avoid a long grim hospital death, but at least from my shoes that subtle difference of surrender vs taking control really changed the lens through which I see my own mortality. Super interesting.
Sorry to hear man.
 
Jan 21, 2015
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Sorry to hear man.
It's been an enlightening ride. Found many truths about myself, how I view my own life and life/death in general.

Honestly I feel kind of reborn, a new strength and motivation to make the most of the rest of my days, however many or few they may be.

Mu uncle has set up an exhibition of his artwork to be held AFTER today (his scheduled euthanasia). He knows it will happen and has been part of curating his selections and setting up the venue even though he knows he will not be there. How wild is that??
RIP Uncle, see you on the outside