Friend died last week - his last voicemail to me!

[sgotwalks]

My friend died suddenly a week ago Saturday, fell back and hit his head on a table. Very sad..........he wasn't a super close friend but we definitely had some long nights out, being up to no good throughout the years. We grew up in the same town back east, and we both ended up in the same town on the west coast for a few years. We had both since moved on and I would see him when I went home (back east) to visit family and friends every year or two, as we shared a lot of the same friends and he was quite close buds with my cousin.

Anyhow, the big galoot recently came back out west to work in the oil fields and he tried to get together for some beers. We played a bit of phone tag and I left him a message letting him know that I was actually about 17 hours drive from where he was working, so a beer was out of the question. He followed up with this message, the last one I got from him..........


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPOcvkvU4is


I have been toying with the idea of posting this on facebook for those who knew him to hear his voice one more time. Do you guys thing it is too soon, inappropriate, or out of line in any way? I know that it warms my heart to hear the nut bar's voice again and it brings a warm smile to my face each time I do. I can't help but wonder if it might do the same for some of our mutual friends who might see it on their news feed. I have never met his family and do not know where they live, but I wouldn't want to bring more pain to open wounds if they were to come across it.

I've asked elsewhere but the advice has been mixed, and I still struggle with it. Should I just let it go?

 

[Robbie Hart]

Brother, IMO give it some time, 6 months or more......

 

[BJTT_Pella]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Im not sure if you should be the one to post that. Is there a family member you can get with?

 

[Wild]

Man life is crazy. Guy that appears to be young, in good shape...falls, hits his head on a table and dies. Just brutal.

 

[sgotwalks]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Im not sure if you should be the one to post that. Is there a family member you can get with?

I think I'm the only one that can post it considering the entire message is directed at me. The thing is that there are a lot of us who knew Jay and had some good times together. After he passed I saw a lot of other old friend pop up in social media who I hadn't seen or heard from in years, many sharing their thoughts and stories about the big guy, and I let a couple of our closer mutual friends listen to the message and they seemed to think others might like to listen to it, as it brought a smile to their faces.

Jay had no wife, girlfriend, kids or any of that. He partied a lot and knew a fuck load of people and was well liked. I have no doubt many would enjoy hearing the big fellow blabber on the way he always did, but man, death is a sensitive thing so I hesitate to do so. I'm thinking I will finally put this to bed and possibly put it out there some years down the road. By then, it could be a gift to listen to his voice even for the family should they come across it.

There we have it. II'm not going to this any longer.

 

[sgotwalks]

Brother, IMO give it some time, 6 months or more......

You're right. Even longer than that I think............some day, maybe a couple years from now I may share this little gem. It will be appreciated differently at that time.

 

[sgotwalks]

Man life is crazy. Guy that appears to be young, in good shape...falls, hits his head on a table and dies. Just brutal.

Fucking bummer dude. This combined with that full moon thing I was telling you about is likely what put some crazy into my world last week!

 

[ThatOneDude]

My friend died suddenly a week ago Saturday, fell back and hit his head on a table. Very sad..........he wasn't a super close friend but we definitely had some long nights out, being up to no good throughout the years. We grew up in the same town back east, and we both ended up in the same town on the west coast for a few years. We had both since moved on and I would see him when I went home (back east) to visit family and friends every year or two, as we shared a lot of the same friends and he was quite close buds with my cousin.

Anyhow, the big galoot recently came back out west to work in the oil fields and he tried to get together for some beers. We played a bit of phone tag and I left him a message letting him know that I was actually about 17 hours drive from where he was working, so a beer was out of the question. He followed up with this message, the last one I got from him..........


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPOcvkvU4is


I have been toying with the idea of posting this on facebook for those who knew him to hear his voice one more time. Do you guys thing it is too soon, inappropriate, or out of line in any way? I know that it warms my heart to hear the nut bar's voice again and it brings a warm smile to my face each time I do. I can't help but wonder if it might do the same for some of our mutual friends who might see it on their news feed. I have never met his family and do not know where they live, but I wouldn't want to bring more pain to open wounds if they were to come across it.

I've asked elsewhere but the advice has been mixed, and I still struggle with it. Should I just let it go?

Me personally, I would post it. I know I would've liked to have been able to hear my good friends voice when he was killed. Because of that I saved all my grandfather's voice mails to me when he was dying of cancer. I have them on my phone, PC, and saved on multiple different cloud storage sites.
Someone may came across it and and want it for themselves. As long as there wasn't anything bad on the VM or he wasn't shit housed I would post it with a message saying what it means to you to hear his voice sometimes and you thought maybe others would like that as well.
I'm really sorry for your loss man. I'm glad you have that to remember him by when you're thinking of him.

 

[Robbie Hart]

You're right. Even longer than that I think............some day, maybe a couple years from now I may share this little gem. It will be appreciated differently at that time.

The more I think about it, maybe a year after his death to remember him......those that knew him best will hear that voice again and salute the man.....I didn't say this when I should have but I'm sorry for you and your friend's family loss.

 

[FeeO]

I'm truly sorry for your loss. Sudden death of a longtime friend is terrible and disorienting.

 

[kneeblock]

Sorry for your loss. I think it'll be good to release after some time has passed, but maybe check in with some family first.

 

[girlandcoconut]

So very sorry for the loss of your friend @sgotwalks Tragic news but sounds like he fully lived the days he had and you and his other friends, and family have good memories of him.