I tried not drinking for a weekend

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benjo0101

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Jun 13, 2016
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Weird. My body doesn't like not going out. Sitting at home is weird.

All my mates are out. I'm sat at home.

In the pursuit of progression and losing weight.

Fucks with my head. I've gone out or had a beer for every weekend since forever. Feels like I've not had a weekend.

Hope it helps...
 

Inflames

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Oct 30, 2019
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That's always been my problem. I can stop drinking, and within a few days start to feel really good physically because of sleeping better, less hangover headaches, etc.

After a couple of months, I start to feel this build up of tension or whatever. I just get incredibly bored with feeling the same way every day, never feeling immensely happy or immensely sad or whatever. I just feel kind of numb.

So, I'll give in an go on a bender just to feel that carefree, joyous feeling you sometimes briefly get when you're drunk, which - since I'm an alcoholic - leads into drinking every night again.

I'm 50, and at a point in my life where I know that if I want to live another 25-30 years, I've got to stop drinking. For those of you who have stopped successfully, how do you get over the hump here?
 

Sex Chicken

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That's always been my problem. I can stop drinking, and within a few days start to feel really good physically because of sleeping better, less hangover headaches, etc.

After a couple of months, I start to feel this build up of tension or whatever. I just get incredibly bored with feeling the same way every day, never feeling immensely happy or immensely sad or whatever. I just feel kind of numb.

So, I'll give in an go on a bender just to feel that carefree, joyous feeling you sometimes briefly get when you're drunk, which - since I'm an alcoholic - leads into drinking every night again.

I'm 50, and at a point in my life where I know that if I want to live another 25-30 years, I've got to stop drinking. For those of you who have stopped successfully, how do you get over the hump here?
Hey man. I’ve been sober for 7 years now. Without bogging down my response with too much of my personal history (there is a link to a sobriety thread below where a few of the alcoholics on the forum talk about it below), I was an all day heavy drinker for 20 years, and I honestly never imagined being able to get sober.
It seems to me like you’re pretty much already there. It’s a cliche but it’s true admitting your an alcoholic is the biggest step. Now it seems you just have to accept that you can’t drink anymore. For whatever reason whether it be years of abuse, something genetic or something chemical, you’ve broken your off switch. I don’t know why I’m an alcoholic. It doesn’t matter why. Stop trying to figure it out and trying to find a way to keep booze in your life. At the end of my drinking I would take a month off to try to prove to myself I wasn’t an alcoholic, but the fact was it was always still on my head and I was doing the month knowing I was going to let myself off the leash as soon as it was over. It’s exhausting doing the math and mental gymnastics ‘I can have a couple tonight because I didn’t drink all week’ (and we know that no matter how strong our resolve feels, or our best intentions, it never turns out being a “couple”), I’ll drink tonight and then go back on the wagon tomorrow’. It is such a relief when you just say “I’m done”. I don’t even think about it anymore. I just don’t drink. I don’t examine why or allow myself to lie to myself that maybe this time it will be different. I just don’t drink at all. I don’t fight that battle anymore.

I wake up clear. Knowing I took care of my business the day before, it at least gave it my best effort. It’s a great way to live. It’s like being out of debt. I wake up with a clean slate or as clean as I could have made it. I’m not overwhelmed anymore.

I sometimes think of my drinking as an ostrich sticking his head in the sand. I would get overwhelmed by life and all it’s stresses and demands and use alcohol to escape. Of course the longer you stick your head in the sand the more that shit piles up, and if you’re an alcoholic that escape can last for days, weeks, months, years. Then you stick your head up for a bit and see all the missed appointments, work that needs to be done, the way you have let people down, and now you have even more reason to want to escape. It’s like fighting a fire with gas It’s a vicious cycle and it’s fucking miserable. What you think is giving you relief is the thing that’s creating the things you need relief from.

I don’t have that shit anymore. I don’t drink and I don’t know examine why I can’t, I just don’t.

I’m happy for you man, it seems like your all there except for that last step. It really is a great way to live.

PM me if you ever want to talk.

Lifestyle - Is there a sobriety thread here?