Welp...
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Bro you'll be fine, my wife divorced me this year. I'm thinking of sending her a really nice Xmas present because it's been great!
Hey thanks guys I appreciate it , yeah I'll be fine just gott a keep chugging. So we've lived a block away from each other since we met (been best friends for way longer than we were actually together ) and I move up north every winter to go work at my uncles meat market (for deer season) so I came down for her birthday because I knew once gun season started I'd be swamped working 12+ hours a day. So everything is fine and I'm down here for about a week , but I noticed she was acting different kinda just emotionless and I asked her what was going on. Then she just broke it to me and said she doesn't love me any more (actually she said "I think I don't love you anymore") here's the kicker she didn't actually break up with me cause she " didn't have the guts to do it" so I just walked her out of my house and said goodbye. I'm mean we both have Lot going in the works and goes to school and I work and take care of the farm out here up north . but she said she feels numb about everything . idk man we were perfect idk what happened . deep down in side ibhope she just has alot going on and comes back to me, but I'm not gunna be the one to go back to her asking what happened . just gunna go get my stuff from her house and if she feels any different than last note who knows...
that's sad...if it was meant to be then it will be. my advice would be to give her space and respect her decision . let her know you care about her and want her to be happy. you did say you were good friends prior to dating, hopefully that will still be the case when the sting wears off. don't do any vindictive stalker shit though...
hang in there.
hang in there.
Hang in there man. As the old saying goes, if you can't live by yourself, you can't live with someone else. It sounds like she wasn't ready to commit any more. People can change a lot in two years, or realize they're not being true to themselves and need change. Change is good! It toughens you.
This is great advice. I've been married for 19 years now and we've both changed so much over the years that neither of us recognize the people we were when we met. We've had to adjust to these changes over the years and it hasn't always been easy. But I've found the secret for us is to be attentive to the other person's changing interests, and when the 2 of you aren't completely in sync, just back up, watch and learn. Do not force anything, it's not fair to the other person.Hang in there man. As the old saying goes, if you can't live by yourself, you can't live with someone else. It sounds like she wasn't ready to commit any more. People can change a lot in two years, or realize they're not being true to themselves and need change. Change is good! It toughens you.
Edit: Not that anyone was asking for my advice lol. Sorry.
Absolutely this! I had the same GF from 15 to 26 and we changed so much throughout that decade that it was a wonder we lasted so long. In hindsight I regret not being more adventurous during those formative years but admittedly she shaped the man I am today and taught me how to adapt with the naturally occurring changes in people personalities with my current partner (reaching our 10 year mark in Jan).
One thing I can say that helped me the most was not dating and just living by myself for a year. I went out, partied like freak and had a ton of fun just being me. Not caring what anyone else thought of me, no more emotional dependencies to hold me down, no more insecurities to cripple my self worth etc etc. Once I figured out that living alone was so doable that I really didn't need anyone else is when I was ready to commit to someone else again. Chics dig self dependence.
Thanks for all the insight guys I see you all have been through similar situations as I have , "it is better to love and have lost than to not have loved at all" I know I haven't been part of this forum for long and you guys seem like a real amiable and genuine bunch of fellas
Eh, shit happens man, you'll be fine
I'm sorry this is happening to you. I'm not going to give advice because i donn't know enough...maybe just one thing. Most chicks want to be desired/wanted/romanced/asurance. Some woman need that more than others. May I ask is she needy like this?
One thing is certain aboout brake ups. It fucks with your emotions. Time heals all wounds. In time you will feel a lot better. Know that and get excited because you will have more freedom and options..oh and more money. Chin up my man. We are here for you.
One thing is certain aboout brake ups. It fucks with your emotions. Time heals all wounds. In time you will feel a lot better. Know that and get excited because you will have more freedom and options..oh and more money. Chin up my man. We are here for you.
You fit right in man. I bet you guy whip up some great deer sausages with pork. I know a fit that makes spicy snack sticks. They are the best but he does charge an arm and a leg.
that sucks, but life goes on and time heals.