General Your child is Dating a loser

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Do you let your child know?

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  1. Banchan

    Banchan The Most Dangerous Dame

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    Would you do or say anything if your child's long term boyfriend or girlfriend was a huge loser?

    Definition of loser in this case
    1.has no stable job or constantly loses employment.
    2.poor antisocial personality where you can tell they have few personal relationships with anyone but your child
    3.doesn't pull the financial weight (chronically losing job or has low quality employment) so your child pays for everything
    4.lives at home 25+ (doesn't own anything)
    5.f-ing bum in everyway and you just don't like them and want to punch them in the face anytime you see them
     
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  2. Never_Rolled

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    Getting involved will just prolong it. It will play out on it's own. I know a doc with 3 daughters and a son. One daughter married a loser. He bought them a house and found the kid a job. He's still a loser but he did that for his daughter.
     
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  3. Banchan

    Banchan The Most Dangerous Dame

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    What if said loser proposed. Would you say anything then?
     
  4. Never_Rolled

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    My experience is the more a parent protests the more the child will rebel.
     
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  5. Filthy

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    Age of child?
     
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    My stepmother is using this approach but it's taking remarkably slow to play out in the expected way. Her daughter has been dating the loser for almost 10 years I believe.

    But yes I agree with what you're saying.
     
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  7. maurice

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    I have 2 boys so, as long as the girls are pretty, society won't condemn them for failing to "pull the financial weight" etc.
     
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  8. Banchan

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    Financially padding will draw out this process as well imo.
     
  9. Banchan

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    What about the other way around?
     
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  10. Banchan

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    20+ thinking marriage age
    Potential financial life disaster ahead
     
  11. Banchan

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    My belief if they already married or have a kid say NOTHING.

    My q. is if they are at stage where they weathered through many stormy years that you assumed they would breakup but they didn't and now they're discussing marriage and you deeply see this prick ruining your kid's life.
     
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    The situation that is based is the same. Girl parents assumed 10 rocky years of breaking up and getting back together with loser eventually they will breakup and now they're talking about getting married and you can see the distain on the parents face. I wonder if they will finally drop a bomb on their daughter that they think her boyfriend is a loser or continue to remain quiet.

    I see 2 problems with their plan to let it play out.

    1. Even though daughter has a decent job, she's never been without money and her parents always help out if she's short because she pays for this loser. Why would they breakup if they never have to buck up and face hardships together?

    2. Loser is good looking and this girl tried finding other men to date when they break up but never found anyone better looking than loser and as Chris Rock says, women refuse to date down. She refuses to date a less attractive man than loser because i think this makes her feel less attractive.

    I think wedding bells will be ringing eventually and that this is prob the last chance they got before the loser becomes their son.
     
  13. Chief

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    I have 2 boys and a girl. Don't care what the boys do as long as they don't make me a grandfather.

    Told my daughter that she was not allowed to bring any boy home unless she was contemplating marrying them. She is 27 and I've met 2 boyfriends. I liked them both. She's still with the 2nd and I am still not a grandfather.
     
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  14. karasu

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    what if he is like this guy?

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    Look at the bright side: My stepmother's loser is a 30+ obese bald boy-man who has a daughter himself from a loser mom that doesn't care for the little girl.
     
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  17. Banchan

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    Totally like Jefferson but with a much less outgoing depressed personality. He always talks shit about people behind their back.
     
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    I would advise to instruct those young men to the DANGERS of scheming Jezebels and to NEVER underestimate the power of women and their potential to cause a man such miseries that it could be the financial and spiritual ruin of him. I have observed otherwise successful men of good character ruined by woman. And now with social media and "Hashtagging Harlots" a gentleman needs to be extra-careful in his courting measure.

    Just look how often we hear about how the Western Legal system favors the female. Young men need better guidance about this. There is as much danger to the male as female in the pursuit of romance.

    sure if one is a BILLIONAIRE he can enjoy a life of hedonism with the means to navigate MULTIPLE divorce and the means to cover alimonies and support of his abandoned offsprings as he spreads his seeds.......but is that REALLY contributing to Making America GREAT Again???
     
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    it is often the case where offspring seem to be predisposed to rebel against the parents.......so in such cases I would advise the parent to seek the council and help of one which the youth has admiration and ask for their aid in guiding the naive one away from the potential misfortune and misery resulting of a bad choice
     
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    I tell my kids "you can fall in love with anybody. might as well fall in love with somebody rich."
     
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    we've had interventions with several friends and family that were about to marry a loser or a cunt

    from my experience, they will never listen, and when it comes to marriage/relationships

    people are going to do what they WANT to do, and when they are open to advice they simply are looking for someone to agree with them


    my wife's oldest sister married a typical loser who became a stay at home dad for 10 YEARS, with just 1 daughter....he was always "working" on some magic the gathering type card game he was creating but never had motivation to go out and find real employment
    everyone in the family and around them would quietly nudge each other about how little respect they have for a full grown, able bodied man to just want to stay at home past the couple of years of child rearing

    fast forward 15 years, and my wife's sister ended up cheating on her husband with a coworker...she got fed up with his loser attitude and lost all respect for him as a man who stayed at home doing nothing (she is a doctor)

    everyone gave her "the talk" about not marrying such a guy, but she didnt listen at the time
     
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  23. HEATH VON DOOM

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    Lets ask a couple experts

    @yuki4@yuki4 @Wild..@Wild.. what does your girlfriends parents say about you?
     
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  24. Shang Tsong2

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    Said ur a cunt
     
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  25. Banchan

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    So tragic because I want to punch his face every time a pic with him comes up on my feed. It's so awkward to see family pictures and everyone is kind of fake smiling and leaning away from him and you could tell even if you didn't know what was up just looking at the photo that nobody except her wants to be in photo with him.
     
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