Tough news today at work

[MMAHAWK]

Got a call for at 9:30 am for a 10 o'clock emergency meeting. Everything possible starts to run through my mind as I drive back to the office from new policy to layoffs. But I never thought I would hear that a 27 year employee and the guy who sits next to me in the office committed suicide last night. I've had a lot of people in my life die but this is the first suicide. It was a total shock to everyone. Really makes you realize what matters in life. Wish he would have reached out for help or support.

 

[SongExotic2]

Got a call for at 9:30 am for a 10 o'clock emergency meeting. Everything possible starts to run through my mind as I drive back to the office from new policy to layoffs. But I never thought I would hear that a 27 year employee and the guy who sits next to me in the office committed suicide last night. I've had a lot of people in my life die but this is the first suicide. It was a total shock to everyone. Really makes you realize what matters in life. Wish he would have reached out for help or support.

Damn man that sucks. Had a similar thing just over a year ago. Was someone I knew from worked who always seemed fine. Agreed people need to reach out if they start feeling it. There's always a better option than out

 

[MMAHAWK]

Damn man that sucks. Had a similar thing just over a year ago. Was someone I knew from worked who always seemed fine. Agreed people need to reach out if they start feeling it. There's always a better option than out

Yeah it's terrible. I've even had my issues with depression but always had family or friends that I could go to. I've even gone to Vegas solo to watch ufc events just to clear my head and get back on track. I've only worked with him for a year and a half but others have worked with him for over 25 years. It's sad he didn't feel he could talk to them.

 

[SongExotic2]

Yeah it's terrible. I've even had my issues with depression but always had family or friends that I could go to. I've even gone to Vegas solo to watch ufc events just to clear my head and get back on track. I've only worked with him for a year and a half but others have worked with him for over 25 years. It's sad he didn't feel he could talk to them.

Yea I've been in some bad places myself but never close to anything like that. Truth be told even when I knew I was starting to feel depressed I put on a front around people. It's hard for the world to see what someone is going through unless they flat out let someone know. And most don't do it. They bottle it up and let it boil to the point that they just end it.

That's why I try to live my life how I want to you know. I almost quit my last job without even having a new one lined up. It was just a bad period back then and it got a lot better but there were definitely times where I thought wait, this shit isn't making me happy and I'm hating getting up to go there, fuck this I'm gonna quit.

Got close a few times with my new job too.

 

[CavemanBJJ]

Sucicide sucks my best friend's dad killed himself when we were in high school five years later, he killed himself. Dad was thanksgiving, friend couple days before Christmas. It sucks I've had numerous other friends kill themselves. One went to his parents house on his bday had a great day told his parents today I came in, and today I go out, then walked out back and shot himself. Nobody expected it. He was a happy and successful guy.

Nobody knows what others have in their mind, all we can do is be nice to each other and do the best we can. Sometimes we can help and sometimes it doesn't matter what you do. People just decide and while I think it's a selfish/cowardly move personally its ultimately a choice most will never really understand.

 

[Wild]

That's brutal. Did he show any signs of depression in the office Matt?

 

[MMAHAWK]

That's brutal. Did he show any signs of depression in the office Matt?

I know he had some family issues. His wife has health problems and his kids in their early 20's were driving him nuts. But nothing that made me think of his was coming. He was a small town lifetime school district employee. He had very little financial burden and had thousands of hours of vacation time on the book. Last Wednesday before new years break I was talking to him about how close he was to 100% pension. He joked he was going to stay an extra 10 years just to fuck with us. I guess to answer your question I new he wished his life was better but no more than you or I.

 

[Wild]

I know he had some family issues. His wife has health problems and his kids in their early 20's were driving him nuts. But nothing that made me think of his was coming. He was a small town lifetime school district employee. He had very little financial burden and had thousands of hours of vacation time on the book. Last Wednesday before new years break I was talking to him about how close he was to 100% pension. He joked he was going to stay an extra 10 years just to fuck with us. I guess to answer your question I new he wished his life was better but no more than you or I.

Man that is crazy.

 

[MMAHAWK]

Man that is crazy.

Really sad. My boss was a bit careful with giving out to much info as far as how he did it. But I know his daughter came home from Disneyland last night and found him. He loved going there with his family and I have a year pass so we would always talk about the park. I can't imagine coming home from the "happiest place on earth " and finding a parent dead. It really makes me sick to think about what she must be going through.

 

[Jesus X]

that is awful. the worst thing I ever saw was a co worker fell face first right infront of me a died suddenly of heart failure it was sudden an tragic.

 

[Ted Williams' head]

Damn that's really sad. We never truly know the inner battles people are having. Especially men, because we're expected to keep that shit in and "man up" when it comes to depression. I feel really bad for his daughter who had to find him. I had a friend commit suicide back in 2008 and two other friends ended up finding him. Both of those guys have had major issues with depression and substance abuse themselves in the years since, and I don't think I'm going out on a limb in thinking the stress of finding their friend has a lot to do with it. Sorry to hear it, RIP to him and hope his family can get through it as best as they can.

 

[1372]

Sorry to hear it man.

Everytime I hear about Suicide i remember the song Suicide is painless....Not painless for those left behind...There has to be a better way although some of us can't see that.

May he Rest in peace.

 

[sparkuri]

Thousands of hours of vacation?

Too bad he didn't take a temporary vacation before choosing a permanent.
Tomorrow might've been a brighter day.

I remember reading Jack Carter's suicide experience, where he was hanging himself from a tree and going out, and then thinking, " what am i doing?"

As it turns out, they were his medications for depression that were driving him even worse.

Many times we just look at what we could have done, if we had a few more minutes or hours to help, or if things we said or did could have helped at all.
Maybe, maybe not.

What would help is if we could get a different perspective, because we're all kind of stuck on the same hamster wheel.