Friendship Problems #Frat

[ECC170]

First off she told him snout one of your most deep down times of your life...then he uses thst as a putdown..hmm thst right they're was enough to forget that cunt...They seem like two miserable turds who invited you over just to have a person to gang up on...Wish you would have had your fighter friend put him his place..Hes probably a rich kid who had never had his ass beat and needs a beating...

 

[ECC170]

P.s you seem cool as hell...anybody who doesn't appreciate some fight swag and free food needs beaten til they eat through a straw..maybe then he would appreciate a good meal..

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[regular john]

how dare you steal their bruce lee sticker you sticking thief muthafucka?? it had sentimental value! they bought it on a trip to the mall. you don't understand...

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[regular john]

seriously though dump this "friend".

as you get older you have to trim it down to the core. what's the likelihood of all of your childhood friends turning out to be cool anyway?

 

[FeeO]

I legit adore you FeeO. I'm so glad you joined here and I get to laugh at your posts and beautiful personality. Nice rack too.

Same to you, fox. Not only are your posts intelligent, funny and perceptive, you won me forever with your "wine bitch!/my gut is whispering Food hoe" status. Holy fuck do I laugh and marvel at that. It's like a perfect, hilarious haiku. It's your ex-friend's loss 1000000%.

 

[BJTT-Rizzo]

Well from reading that I have come to the conclusion that "Mister" is a fucking piece of shit. That is no way to treat a guest, ever. I would gladly go right up to him a sock him right in the nose for you.

All his rudeness went unnoticed because she didn't want to answer to that asshole for defending a friend. She probably is so warped that she thought you'd just be understanding and let it slide. Maybe I'm way off. They sound like a couple of creepy ass weirdos.

Fuck them. Fuck that sticker. No more friendship. Nobody should be treated that way by a host. You were stuck in their environment and were shit on. How upsetting.

Surroud yourself with positive people and feel that love honey.

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[regular john]

lol do you really drink that much wine?

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[regular john]

lol

me I do less and less booze it makes me awful. but wine is the one of choice these days with the lady.

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[kneeblock]

It sounds like your friend could potentially be in an abusive relationship to me.

Surveilling her phone calls
Alienating/demonizing friends
Her being constantly on edge
His general douchebaggish behavior

The s&m thing could just be a smokescreen. Calling him Mister when they're not at play? Suspect. I'd say don't cut your friend completely off as she may need support one day, but deal with her judiciously.

 

[lookoutawhale]

It sounds like your friend could potentially be in an abusive relationship to me.

Surveilling her phone calls
Alienating/demonizing friends
Her being constantly on edge
His general douchebaggish behavior

The s&m thing could just be a smokescreen. Calling him Mister when they're not at play? Suspect. I'd say don't cut your friend completely off as she may need support one day, but deal with her judiciously.

good point kneeblock. it does sound like shes in those relationships where he tries to cut off her friends so he can control her. good thinking.

were you ever allowed to talk to her one on one while you were there mel? i wonder how she would act if she was alone.

i mean all the time she was on the phone with you talking about that weird sticker thing, he might be listening to the conversation sitting right next to her and making her do it.

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[kneeblock]

I hear you but nope. Don't care if she's voluntarily or otherwise being abused. I forgave all of it, stayed in her corner even though I was hurt.
I know she has issues and me being the way I am not everyone will like me. Idc. But what she's not going to do is continuously make me the bad guy. When I told her it was enough she kept going. I was the last friend she had, hung in there as long as I could. I'm not going to eat shit forever to be there for you.

Totally understandable. It definitely sounds like you're at your limit with her, which any sane person would be at this point. I wouldn't hang out with or call her regularly, but it might be worth sending a short message saying "I can't be cool with you because of him. When you're ready to deal with what he's doing, I'll be there." Much of what she's saying she may have no control over.

On the other hand, she could just have become a trifling a-hole, but better safe than sorry. A friend you never talk to, but who can call you for help is better than a dead ex-friend.

 

[FeeO]

I took her outside alone a few times, she had nothing to say. She asked to call me when he wasn't there and this is what the result was. Yes she has issues. I didn't completely snap on him because of her. I gave her 2 years to wallow in the sticker bullshit which she'd bring up while talking to me when he wasn't at home. I invited her to a girls weekend a year later without him but she went to mental health treatment instead.
I would've still kept her around but I'm not going to let you shit on me constantly while I'm trying to be there for you. When I told her it's enough she went screeching, full on crazy as a shithouse rat mode.
Fuck her. I got my own problems.

You dudes have your hearts in the right place, and it's nice to think that people don't automatically conclude someone's a writeoff, that they could be going through a terrible and scary time and need support. This forum has an abnormally high incidence of decency and that's part of why it rules.

But sometimes the way it goes down between female friends-- I've been there too-- is that one will treat the other like offal on the cue of her man, meanwhile expecting her mistreated friend to understand and be there because...I gotta keep my man, and men have more status. So then it becomes not one female in the abusive grip of some ball-less jackhole but two. It's control by proxy. Mel's gotta draw that line there for her own sense of self-respect and sanity. Not to be too harsh but even if the friend comes back and says sorry, wasn't he was horrible, I'm single now let's hang...how do you get past how she herself betrayed confidences?

Sorry for frat! Ah fuck it, I'm a natural frat writer.

 

[Darqnezz]

Maybe he needs to get checked. This is how I usually do it.

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

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[Wintermute]

I know. I'm a degenerate kleptomaniac midget fucker.