Something I've experienced lately, or more that I've just become more aware of given my current circumstances and lack of facebook, is that people no longer put any energy into relationships of any kind outside of an app or text. In the past 2 weeks I've had 3 guys give me their number and been told to "text them." I'm not 25. I'm almost 40 years old. And these dudes are in their mid-40's.
No one has to put any energy into anything. I've been single for so long because any guy that even has interest for a second, quickly loses it when I'm not blowing up his phone or trying to hang out with him every day. My fierce independence partly gets in the way of that but I don't even have time to get that far if I'm just being given a phone number and told to text them. Nah, biggest turn off. If you have interest, show it. Put in the tiniest bit of effort. Ask me to meet you for coffee.
But fact is since they don't have to put that energy into anyone, they don't. They can go on pof and find 20 chicks to chat with that will stroke their ego or give them attention. Nobody can handle having their phone not ring or not get texts constantly. My phone goes off maybe once or twice a week outside of my neighbor and my mom. None of my long term friends ever call me, they rarely text and many only go so far as using facebook to foster/maintain any kind of relationship. I feel like all of that is extremely disingenuous anymore and I just don't have time for it.
This is why I want to just throw my phone. The only sort of social media app i have left on my phone is instagram. Anything else I just check in occasionally from my laptop. You guys honestly get the majority of my online attention anymore....and I'm not even around here much.
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@I Wild Each It was that a FRAT? Lol
@girlandcoconut My buddy
@ThatOneDude is the type of guy who'd take you out for a nice dinner and call you the next day to see how you enjoyed it.
