Why do females think they can hit men and expect no consequences?

[Emmery Myers]

I don't think this story got enough attention. You broke a person's jaw and he required surgery and he hadn't laid a hand on you. Da fuq is wrong with you?

And then you advocate walking away from confrontations

LOL. ruh oh. You got me. There are worse stories from earlier in my 20s, for sure. Who I am now and who I was are very different. But I aint ashamed of shit here man.

He pushed me once after ripping his shirt off like some sort of bad ass, so he did lay a hand, but the point was, he attacked me in my own yard with my children there. I had a toddler and an 8 year old right behind me bro. The police did a full investigation and cleared me. He was an abusive scum anyway. But turning and walking away with two kids right there wasn't an option. I didn't intent to break his jaw and tbh I felt bad and guilty about it for a while. There was a short period of time where it wasn't clear if his nerve damage was permanent. He's ok tho. I saw him walking around with his wired jaw with a DIFFERENT CHICK a month after this, while his other girl was still pregnant. If someone in the process of beating his girl attacks you for calling the cops with your little children there, I imagine you'd manage the situation the same as me. Don't fuck with my family.

 

[Wild]

Wife's never hit me and I've never hit her. Some women hit men. Some men hit women. You're either someone that loses their temper and makes irrational decisions, or you're not. Gender has no part of it IMO.

 

[Emmery Myers]

Wife's never hit me and I've never hit her. Some women hit men. Some men hit women. You're either someone that loses their temper and makes irrational decisions, or you're not. Gender has no part of it IMO.

I can agree with this up until the homicide data comes out.

 

[ThatOneDude]

I don't think this story got enough attention. You broke a person's jaw and he required surgery and he hadn't laid a hand on you. Da fuq is wrong with you?

And then you advocate walking away from confrontations

 

[Emmery Myers]

Says queen Elizabeth lol

 

[ThatOneDude]

Says queen Elizabeth lol

"you shouldn't hit anyone ever"

Gets pushed, breaks jaw.

 

[Emmery Myers]

"you shouldn't hit anyone ever"

Gets pushed, breaks jaw.

LOL

That's just a believie.

 

[ThatOneDude]

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99dDA0bx3kM

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

Domestic violence has no gender. An abuser is not abusing a victim because they want a fight. It's to intimidate and demean your partner. I'm 6&0 with dudes. Girls don't anger or offend me like men do because I'm not interested asserting control over female hoes. I fully expect my victim to fight back.

 

[Leigh]

LOL. ruh oh. You got me. There are worse stories from earlier in my 20s, for sure. Who I am now and who I was are very different. But I aint ashamed of shit here man.

He pushed me once after ripping his shirt off like some sort of bad ass, so he did lay a hand, but the point was, he attacked me in my own yard with my children there. I had a toddler and an 8 year old right behind me bro. The police did a full investigation and cleared me. He was an abusive scum anyway. But turning and walking away with two kids right there wasn't an option. I didn't intent to break his jaw and tbh I felt bad and guilty about it for a while. There was a short period of time where it wasn't clear if his nerve damage was permanent. He's ok tho. I saw him walking around with his wired jaw with a DIFFERENT CHICK a month after this, while his other girl was still pregnant. If someone in the process of beating his girl attacks you for calling the cops with your little children there, I imagine you'd manage the situation the same as me. Don't fuck with my family.

Well I expect I've had more training and more experience in confrontations than you, so I'm confident there would no violence.

I think it's interesting that you mention the police clearing you as a way to justify your actions. As you are aware, a man can use reasonable force to defend himself against a female attacker.

 

[Emmery Myers]

Domestic violence has no gender. An abuser is not abusing a victim because they want a fight. It's to intimidate and demean your partner. I'm 6&0 with dudes. Girls don't anger or offend me like men do because I'm not interested asserting control over female hoes. I fully expect my victim to fight back.

I expected nothing less from her trillness.

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

I expected nothing less from her trillness.

I'm working on it. Grew up with male on female dv & I chose to identify with the abuser. It's still a struggle to keep my fists and feet to myself.

 

[Emmery Myers]

Well I expect I've had more training and more experience in confrontations than you, so I'm confident there would no violence.

I think it's interesting that you mention the police clearing you as a way to justify your actions. As you are aware, a man can use reasonable force to defend himself against a female attacker.

I have quite a past but it had a lot more to do with escalating street fights than deescalation lol. I'm almost 32. Past needing to be violent with people really but I shouldn't give the impression I've always held my believies I hold now. Not much professional training besides boxing. The police cleared me, but I'm comfortable with how it went down with or without them.

 

[Emmery Myers]

I'm working on it. Grew up with male on female dv & I chose to identify with the abuser. It's still a struggle to keep my fists and feet to myself.

Heard that.

 

[Hired Gun]

Because men are raised not to hit women. Over time women have used that against us to some extent. It would have to be a very fucked up situation for me personally to hit a woman.

I would also like to add that it is ok to spank a woman though. Not only is it ok but strongly encouraged.

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

Unless she is seriously hurting you, just retreat. Leaving the situation of a violent attacker isn't outlandish. Especially since even if you may have been hit first, who you think the cops are cuffing bud?

This! Why don't men and women walk away forever? Especially men just because of legal bias. You're with a woman who is crazy as a shithouse rat in the hot desert sun. She attacks you. Why not restrain and exit? Because you're just as dysfunctional as she is.

I say the same thing to female friends in this situation. Why are your crying, yelling and screaming? Get your shit and go. If you don't, then admit to yourself that you fucking like it. Stop with the woe is me. For either sex, you can leave. You can chose to not.

 

[Emmery Myers]

I like Melly Mel. Im gonna unblock you on twitter even Mel. <3

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

I would also like to add that it is ok to spank a woman though. Not only is it ok but strongly encouraged.

Shiiiiiit this cockeyed fella called me a dirty lil bitch while we were having nasty relations. He got corrected. All penis no spanky hands. That's a fight.

 

[OhWhopDaChamp]

I like Melly Mel. Im gonna unblock you on twitter even Mel. <3

We had an atheist misunderstanding

 

[Leigh]

@Emmery Myers, I have a hypothetical question for you.

A 110lb man who wasn't athletic grew up with DV and identified with the abuser and beat up a number of girlfriends. One day he was attacked by a larger woman and he broke her jaw and put her in hospital.

Would you be cool with his actions?

 

[Emmery Myers]

@Emmery Myers, I have a hypothetical question for you.

A 110lb man who wasn't athletic grew up with DV and identified with the abuser and beat up a number of girlfriends. One day he was attacked by a larger woman and he broke her jaw and put her in hospital.

Would you be cool with his actions?

Because of the culture of violence against women, and my own families experiences with DV, I am having a hard time saying yes but if she was hurting him and he just defended himself and she happened to get hurt I can't really fault him.

 

[Hired Gun]

I can tell many a story of domestic abuse when I worked as a medic but I'll only tell one. I personally picked up the same women on three different occasions after her husband came home drunk and beat the breaks off her. Then one night we caught a call to her house and we're shocked to find it was for him. He came home drunk and whooped her ass but this time after he passed out she major trauma'd his ass with a cast iron skillet. At some point he must have came to because his fingers were as twister as pretzels most likely from putting his hands up to block the blows. He was sobbing like a little girl when we got there. I gave her a wink as we carried him out to take him to the hospital.

She didn't even catch a charge

 

[Leigh]

Because of the culture of violence against women, and my own families experiences with DV, I am having a hard time saying yes but if she was hurting him and he just defended himself and she happened to get hurt I can't really fault him.

OK thanks for answering and acknowledging that you have a bias.

 

[Emmery Myers]

OK thanks for answering and acknowledging that you have a bias.

Sure, but my bias feels like an accurate, equitable accounting of the bias society has against women. I don't care about "equality", just equity.

 

[Leigh]

Sure, but my bias feels like an accurate, equitable accounting of the bias society has against women. I don't care about "equality", just equity.

Well you're wrong and your post demonstrates this. Your bias is so strong that you are uncomfortable providing equal acceptance to a male in the exact same position as a female.